Care like nowhere else - Why I support the Great Daffodil Appeal

by Michelle Ryley
Marie Curie Supporter

Michelle Ryley’s mother, was cared for at the Marie Curie Hospice, West Midlands for five weeks during the final stages of bone cancer. Michelle recalls how the hospice staff became like an extended family, always there to provide emotional support and advice whenever they needed it.

Michelle's Mum

When Mum was diagnosed with cancer five years ago, she was only given nine to 11 months to live. She had womb cancer to begin with, which was taken away, but a couple of months later, she was diagnosed with bone cancer. She was 59 years old.

Mum first went into the hospice to help get her medication under control and later on, returned as a day patient for a blood transfusion. She had the option of being treated at hospital but she always preferred being at the hospice.

Mum took a turn for the worst in September 2012 and was initially admitted to hospital for three weeks. But arrangements were quickly made for her to be moved to the hospice, which is where she chose to spend the last weeks of her life.

Where nothing is too much trouble

Nothing was too much trouble for the hospice staff, from the lady at the front desk, to the people who made us cups of tea. Everyone, even the cleaners, would have a smile and ask us how we were. It made us feel less isolated and part of a big family.

The nurses were great and gave us all the time we needed. Being a big family, we took over the hospice. But we were told to just do what we needed to do and that was great.

My dad died of lung cancer in hospital 12 years earlier. He didn't experience the same level of care that my mum received from the staff and nurses at the Marie Curie Hospice. They did so much for all of us.

In a hospital, the staff often don't have the personal touch that you get in a hospice. They're so busy that they don't have the time to make sure that you're okay, as well as the patient.

At the hospice, any questions we had were always answered and they never hid anything from us. They just couldn't have done any more for us.

For Mum to be so content there and not want to come home was a blessing.

By donating to the Great Daffodil Appeal you will be supporting the work that Marie Curie does, helping more families like Michelle’s to make the most of the time that they have left together.