In the latest episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, bereavement expert Jason Davidson meets Mark Foster.
By the time British Olympic swimmer Mark Foster was 15, he was the fastest swimmer in the country. That led to a long career in the pool, with eight world records, six world titles, 11 European Championship golds and two Commonwealth golds. He also competed in five Olympic Games. Since retiring in 2008, he's been a TV regular, competing on Strictly Come Dancing and as an integral face on screen for BBC Sport's swimming coverage.
In this episode of On the Marie Curie Couch, Mark sits down with Jason to talk about his experiences of grief and bereavement, including facing up to unresolved issues around his dad's death, reflecting on the tragic death of his friend and fellow athlete Ross Baillie, and underlining just how devastating it can be to lose a pet.
At home in water
"My mum and dad split when I was 11. My dad remarried when I was probably about 15. Everything was cool, but she had her three kids and they became dad's new family. So we got a little bit pulled apart. I found my focus got taken up by swimming. I felt at home in the water. You're burying your head... I found a family outside of my family."
Shocking and sudden
"I didn't know my friend Ross had a nut allergy. I'd never been with him when he had a reaction. I remember getting in the car, he's in the passenger seat, we're driving up to the hospital and he starts gasping for breath. I was fixated on getting to the hospital, which was only about five minutes away."
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Content note: discussion of death and grief with reference to themes/topics that might be triggering or upsetting.