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“If I can help give others the same care, it will be the biggest achievement.”

14 Apr 2025

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By Abby, Guest blogger

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Abby is running the 2025 TCS London Marathon in memory of her mum. We sat down with her to find out why she’s running for Marie Curie and how running has helped her process her grief.
Tell us about the special person you’re running for and why?
I am running in memory of my mum. She was a very strong and resilient woman. She worked as a full-time lawyer, yet she still managed to have food on the table for dinner every night.
She would always come to my running competitions even if it was in the middle of a muddy field in Scotland. My mum was incredibly brave, caring and witty, we were best friends, and I miss her every day.
Can you tell us what happened with your mum?
My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer around February 2015. She went straight into chemotherapy. I remember going with her to pick out a few wigs – we had some fun with all the colourful wacky ones, but I could tell this was scary for her.
She was in a lot of pain; always exhausted and feeling sick. She was in and out of hospital a lot and her diet had to completely change.
She came off chemotherapy, had a mastectomy and went on to radiotherapy. She was constantly in and out of hospital. After going from being basically Superwoman to not having energy for anything, it was a lot to process and work through mentally.
What happened after your mum’s radiotherapy finished?
As time went on, we thought things were looking up. She went through a phase of recovery; she passed six months clear then one year. She was on her way to recovery, and we all had plans for the future. She had a new lease of life – trying new hobbies including joining a female choir in Glasgow.
What happened next?
In 2017, she took a turn for the worse. She was in and out of hospital doing tests from February until October. Then in November, when things weren’t getting any better, my mum had another MRI scan.
That’s when they found that her cancer had spread to her liver and bone marrow. At that point her cancer was too aggressive, we couldn’t contain it, and it was terminal. From there, we had about three weeks to say our goodbyes. That’s when the Marie Curie Nurses came to make sure her quality of life was to its fullest.
Did that influence your choice to run for Marie Curie?
I chose to run for Marie Curie because I can’t imagine running in memory of my mum without supporting them.
The care that our entire family received during those three weeks was absolutely amazing. The knowledge, intelligence and caring and dedicated nature of the nurses was unparalleled.
She received her care at home and they did everything to make that the most comfortable experience. They brought all her medication, and made sure she was taking the right ones for her pain. Rearranging her bed, seat, living space so she was comfortable. All down to finding the best pillows for her to sit up and lie down.
What was the difference that Marie Curie made?
There were moments when our family wanted space to process the situation. When the Marie Curie Nurses took care of all the medications she needed, that gave us space to focus on spending time with her.
It allowed us to have those last conversations, so that we had some closure, and I could take her last parts of advice with me throughout my life.
What made you want to do the London Marathon in particular?
In my eyes it is just one of the most amazing and iconic fitness-related achievements you can do. Last year, I went to watch my brother run the London Marathon - I was so proud of him. They say if you need a bit of faith in humanity go to watch a marathon!
How do you hope the money you raise will help other people supported by Marie Curie?
The mental and physical pain inflicted on someone who is living with a terminal illness is immense. There’s not much anyone can do other than give them the best possible comfort and experiences in their final days. If I can do something to make sure that others have the same level of attention and care that my mum and our family had, then I know I will have accomplished the biggest achievement of all.
When you’re out on the London Marathon course, how will you think about your mum?
I will keep reminding myself that when things get hard, I’ve always got my mum cheering for me.
Would you say running has helped you with your grief?
Running has massively helped with my mental health. During my grieving journey, I felt that a lot circles through my mind.
This sometimes makes it hard for me to think clearly. When I go for a run, all that noise slowly quietens. I love how running makes me feel, like I can accomplish anything. There’s a beautiful peace to it.
If you’d like to support Abby’s London Marathon run for Marie Curie, please visit her Enthuse fundraising page.
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Published: 14 Apr 2025
Updated: 14 Apr 2025
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