“This year, Father’s Day is going to be very different”

Julie and her dad, Paul, were always incredibly close and spent every Father’s Day enjoying their yearly tradition of eating a Chinese meal together. This year, Julie will be facing her first Father’s Day without her dad, after Paul was diagnosed with bowel cancer and passed away in October 2015.

Julie talks to us about the care Paul received from Marie Curie Nurses, and how she will be remembering her beloved dad this year.

“I was always Daddy's Little Girl; it was always like that ever since I was born, up to being aged 33!

“When I was growing up, during the summer holidays I would go with him whilst he was at work and help him where I could, and if not I would sit and watch him. He was my hero.

Just nice to get together

“We loved doing things together. We always did car boots and auctions together every Thursday night and every Sunday; it was our thing.

“I would go over and see him every Father's Day - it was always nice to just get together. I’d bring him a card and a bar of dark chocolate, which was his favourite. We’d sit and chat for a few hours and enjoy a Chinese meal together.

 “When Dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer in May 2015, he was kept in hospital for a month after being told, which he found really isolating and lonely.

Being able to come home

“The one thing my dad wanted then was to die at home in his own surroundings and with people he loved. He was eventually able to come home, and in his final weeks we had help from the Marie Curie Nurses to help my mum care for him.

“I was nervous about it at first, but once we had met the nurses I felt supported, and it was great my mum could get a break from being Dad’s carer and get some rest.

“The night Dad passed, I remember the nurse helping us so much; he rang the doctor, offered us a cup of tea, and just generally sorted everything for us. I tell you something, that was a god send at that time!

Never forgotten

“This year, Father’s Day is going to be very different. I know it will be a tear jerker, but I’ll get a card to put on my mantle next to his photograph and an angel I have next to him – never forgotten.

“I don’t think it will be too difficult as with what Dad went through at the end, his passing was sort of a blessing for us and for him. I have a six year old girl, Lacee, and she talks about Dad every day. She always looks at the brightest star in the sky, as Granddad told her that star would be him looking down on us.

“When we were facing the loss of my Dad, and my Mum losing her partner of over 40 years, we didn't know where to start. I want to say thank you so much to Marie Curie for all the help they gave in the last few weeks Dad’s life.”

You can also read Sam and Terry's story to hear more about what our nurses do to help families like Paul and Julie’s.

If you'd like to talk to someone this Father’s Day, our Support Line will be open with extended hours on Sunday, from 9am to 5pm.