Looking after your wellbeing in the New Year
As we begin the New Year, it’s worth remembering that for many people, the aftermath of the festive period can be a difficult time.
For people living with a terminal illness, their carers and loved ones, and people who are going through bereavement, there are many different ways to cope with a tough situation when considering the New Year.
- Take your situation one day at a time. If you want to be around people and talk about it then do so, but if you feel that you need time alone, that’s OK. You might be determined and focused one minute and scared or unsure in another. There is no right or wrong.
- Plan something to look forward to if you’re able to, like a film, going to lunch with a friend or a small trip. Looking forward and getting something in the diary can help – whether you’re living with a terminal illness, caring for someone who has, or if you’ve recently lost someone.
- Make sure you’re giving yourself mental ‘rest’. You can try and replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations, or soothe yourself with music, uplifting literature, tears and laughter.
- Seek help through counselling or a support group, which can help you connect with people who are going through a similar experience, especially if you’ve recently lost someone.
At the Marie Curie Hospice, West Midlands we’ve set up a choir, which has been very popular with residents living with a terminal illness, their carers, and those who are going through bereavement. Being with others who are going through a similar experience can often help people feel less alone, and the singing helps teach correct breathing to aid in times of anxiety or stress.
We’ve also set up a ‘walk & talk’ therapeutic group, which gives people who are able to a chance to spend time with others who have a good understanding of what they might be going through. Getting out and about if you’re able to and finding a sympathetic ear is so important.
For people living with a terminal illness and their families or carers, the Marie Curie Helper volunteer service is available in many areas of the country, who will match you with a trained volunteer offering emotional support and companionship.